In the summer of 1999, I was walking across the street to go to a friends house, when I was struck by a drunk driver. This young man, hit me going 90 km and took off without a second thought. He was later caught and arrested.
In the court room the Judge asked him why he fled the scene, he replied;
"I didn't care, I thought she was a dog!".
It was a heart wrenching moment for my family & friends, as we were all hoping for a remorseful response, considering his actions that night and the amount of suffering I had been going through and was going to continue to endure.
This led to years of anger, pain, sadness, and confusion to name a few of the overwhelming feelings that haunted me every day. After my yogic "spiritual awakening" in 2002, I started seeing a psychologist regularly, who was treating my PTSD (Post traumatic Stress Disorder) and helping me process some of these deep seeded emotions. After about a year of therapy, he suggested I write a letter to the man who hit me.
A letter of Forgiveness.
At first, I was taken back and completely against the idea. Then after a deep conversation and some thought provoking point of views, he convinced me to write it.
It took me 2 weeks to write the letter and at first I wasn't going to send it. I was writing it for me, to release the burden from years of bitterness and anger, but by the end of the 2 weeks, when I was satisfied with what I had written, I knew I had to send it to him. So I gave it to my lawyer and asked him to mail it (my lawyer was the only one with his information). I felt comfortable mailing the letter because I wrote the letter for ME. I wrote the letter to set me free from the hurt and rage that had been binding my heart into a tight ball and holding me back from living the life I dreamed of. A life full of joy. A life full of love.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean you justify the offence. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget what happened. Forgiveness releases the contracting forces that hold you back from giving and receiving love.
"As long as we remain imperfect beings, there will always be a need to forgive ourselves and others." Unknown author.
May you courageously forgive those that have hurt you and set yourself free.
With you on this path,